I met the perfect girl for me but!

Hey its me again. It’s finally the weekend and didn’t have much planned till a family friend invited my family for a birthday party.  My mom wasn’t to well so I decided I’d go with my dad.  I was really dreading going there. Like?  Whom will I talk to.  Hope we there not to long.

Finally we arrived there I was anxious to want to go home.  I was feeling uncomfortable. Social anxiety you could say. Still I tried to pass time by trying to make conversations with the people I did know.  It helped pass some time but not enough.  Then I noticed a cute girl I didn’t know.  I’ve kept trying to somehow cross paths to make a conversation with her but no luck.

Finally later that night she was outside alone I introduced myself and surprisingly the conversation was flowing like I didn’t have to try.  This has never happened to me before.  We also had a lot In common.  We both loved anime,  comic books,  the same tvshows and so on.  We clicked,  for me that’s a rare thing.  I knew this girl was amazing and I had to get to know her better. So some how I have the courage to ask her for her WhatsApp number I even gave her my phone to enter it.

The only problem was when I messaged her only to realized she added a fake number.  Cause the profile has been used in a week and I saw her use her WhatsApp last night and the profile pic was of a baby of different race and my messages weren’t going through.  I was so heart broken I mean I really liked this girl and she gave me a fake number.  That’s so mean.  I don’t know if I can ever ask a women out or for her number again 😦

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Are now days girls boring? Cause they don’t know how to have a conversation

Hi I know its been a while. I’m just kinda frustrated. Why? Because I can’t get more than 4 sentences when chatting to a women.

I’m sure if you read a few of my previous posts, you would know there was someone who is interested me but she and a lot off other women I’ve chatted with can’t or don’t know how to have a conversation.

This is how it goes:

Me: Hi

Girl: hi

Me: how you doing?

Girl:K

Me:what you up to

Girl: nothing much

Me: just got back from work. It was a hectic day.

Girl: o okay

(the end)

Like seriously that pisses me off. I mean how hard is it to say something really. I mean how do I get to know you if you replying with vague or one word answers. Its a huge turn off.

I’m not sure how to handle this problem.  Its like when you meet someone and ask them about themselves. Its like don’t do or live a life. They can’t answer nothing about themselves. No interests, no passions, just pointless replies.

I don’t mean all women. I also experimented on a dating website and the out come was pretty much the same. Boring conversations. Believe it or not I’ve had better conversation with ladies in a relationship rather than single ones.

Maybe I’m looking in the wrong place. So the question is? Where is the right place. Where are the interesting women. Anyway just thought I’d share what’s on my mind.

Are now girls boring? Cause they don’t know how to have a conversation

Hi I know its been a while. I’m just kinda frustrated. Why? Because I can’t get more than 4 sentences when chatting to a women.

I’m sure if you read a few of my previous posts, you would know there was someone who is interested me but she and a lot off other women I’ve chatted with can’t or don’t know how to have a conversation.

This is how it goes:

Me: Hi

Girl: hi

Me: how you doing?

Girl:K

Me:what you up to

Girl: nothing much

Me: just got back from work. It was a hectic day.

Girl: o okay

(the end)

Like seriously that pisses me off. I mean how hard is it to say something really. I mean how do I get to know you if you replying with vague or one word answers. Its a huge turn off.

I’m not sure how to handle this problem.  Its like when you meet someone and ask them about themselves. Its like don’t do or live a life. They can’t answer nothing about themselves. No interests, no passions, just pointless replies.

I don’t mean all women. I also experimented on a dating website and the out come was pretty much the same. Boring conversations. Believe it or not I’ve had better conversation with ladies in a relationship rather than single ones.

Maybe I’m looking in the wrong place. So the question is? Where is the right place. Where are the interesting women. Anyway just thought I’d share what’s on my mind.

OMG! She asked me out

This past saturday i went out with my friends for supper.  As we was chatting at mc donalds we spoke about, if we met anyone from our school days. My friend oyeshan said he had one of our class girls on whatsapp and sent her my number. She wasn’t sure who I was until she saw my profile pic.  We chatted on whatsapp till late that night.  Catching up.

Sunday we spent the day chatting a lot.  Sunday night is when she drop a bomb shell on me.  She said ‘ You also seem nice would you want date me for fun, nothing serious just as companion to go out with for fun :)’.

I was speechless but I did kinda agree to her terms.  The next day I ask for advice from a female co work about what i l should do.  Guess going out is great with a girl but I’d like to kiss and cuddle but that’s off the table since we going out as friend’s.  So I don’t know weather or not to pursue her because i don’t want to hurt her or be hurt.  I guess we should be friends instead of dating as friends.

The girl on the bus and I part ways

After a lazy weekend I had to get myself together and be ready for work. So this morning I got on the bus, anxious about getting to work. About 10 minutes later a beautiful girl gets on the bus and sits in front of me.

My heart pounding and feeling nervous. I wanted to go say hi and sit down next to her but my legs or body wouldn’t move. I was afraid of being rejected. Still I looked at her from where I sitting,  where she was playing and stroking her long beautiful hair. I’m thinking in my head I want to talk to her but my courage is empty. Finally my stop comes and I had to get off without saying a word to her. Parting ways 😦

Hopefully I will see her again but not chickening out like a little bitch as my friends would say.

30 and still single :(

Hi ladies I’m here to share my thoughts on being single. I’d also love some advice from you ladies. I’m single for many years now. I’m friendly, down to earth, easy to chat to. My major problem is I’m to shy in person. I feel like a lot of time has passed and I’m getting older by the day and would like to find someone to share my life with.

Truthful I’m also afraid of being rejected. Its also why I haven’t told many girls how I’ve felt about them. Heart break is incurable. Rejection makes you feel worthless. I have spoken to a few ladies lately but it didn’t go to well, there was no flow. We texted and the conversation went like this.

Me : Hi
Girl : Hi
Me : how you doing
Girl : K
Me, : wuup2
Girl : Ntm
Me : Really so you not doing anything, so u don’t wtv or something.
Girl : sometimes.
Me : what tvshows or series you into.
Girl : a lot

Like what the hell was is with the one word answers. Maybe I should of told her I was horny maybe she would fight with me but even that would of made for a better conversation.

Anyway the real reason I’m writing this post is I feel the clock is running out on me. My friends are getting married, and engaged and I’ll be the only one left single. Its gonna be a lonely path if I don’t catch up. Even my niece is serious with her boyfriend. Dam I got to find someone special. Why is it so hard to find love.

Anyone interested tweet me @vishal4nw or mail me at vishal4nw@gmail.com I honestly don’t mind settling for a long distance or foreign relationship right now.

Am I a womaniser?

I’m single almost 30 and can’t commit to a women. No not because I don’t want to! Its because I’m unemployed and no women will want to get serious with a guy without a job right. So instead I have been flirting with a few women. We have an understanding that I’m not looking for a relationship. Just looking to take care of each others needs.

Hold on before you judge me! I know you thinking I’m talking about sex. Yes sex is one of the benefits but it doesn’t only mean sex. We there for each other when we lonely or need a friend. Sometimes if we need someone to go out with and like spend the day etc.

Only problem is I’m caught between 2 girls. I like spending time with both of them but I also like flirting with other women. Maybe its a mid life crisis. Who knows! But I don’t see my self committing to either of these women. They say they ok with it but sometimes I get vibes like they want more from me.

We have a great relationship the way things are. A relationship would suck the life from the fun we have. Still having 2 women in my life and flirting with others is time consuming and draining maybe I will pick one in time but for now I’ll enjoy what I have. 🙂

I do plan on getting in a serious relationship once things are better financially I guess.